{I'd rather you did. ::smile:: I am not fond of the 10 lbs. that video adds to my frame...}
Then, fast forward to about the 45 minute mark, to skip the announcements, the rowdy worship, the offering, and all the other awesome parts of our church life that you may not be as interested in hearing or sitting through.
Please share this message with anyone who needs Christ, anyone who has been struggling with legalism, or anyone who needs a spiritual awakening or refreshing.
I would consider it amazing grace if you'd share my podcasts with anyone who you feel might benefit from them. What I discuss, in these podcasts, is the Gospel applied to daily living, and I am eager to get the word of His grace out!
I am excited to be offering this to you...trust me, it represents hours and hours of hard work - I am notttt tech savvy. It isn't perfect, it isn't even wonderful {yet}, but as you will hear me say, you have to be willing to do some things badly, at least for a little while.
I think you remember those grade school math sheets...they looked like this:
______ + ______ = _______
{with one or two of the values filled in, of course, depending on the skill being taught.}
I want to coach you for a minute, if you are okay with that. I want to give you an assignment - one that is guaranteed to bring out the very best that is already inside you, by grace through faith, if you are a follower of Christ.
And of course, there is a playsheet being developed for my original coaching technique, as we speak.
First, I want you to think of every positive emotion you would like to feel. I want you to think of the desired outcome...the "sum" of the equation.
To put this another way: If presented with a closet of choices, do we want to put on the joy dress, or the peaceful dress, or the calm and loving dress, or the successful dress today?
Often, this is a brand new idea - this notion that we can choose how we want to feel. We are not at the mercy of our circumstances, and we cannot blame someone else for how we feel. No, not even our husband.
{YOU GET TO CHOOSE HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL}
The minute you make your feelings someone else's fault, you are playing the victim card.
Nothing good can come of it. Please hear me: Nothing. Good.
So yeah, think of several really juicy, wonderful, positive feelings.
This exercise is based on the premise (the solidly Biblical premise) that our thoughts create feelings, AND our actions create feelings.
Many, many, many coaches will teach you that thoughts create feelings. But most put the continuum like this:
Circumstances trigger Thoughts trigger Feelings trigger Actions trigger Results.
It's true. But it isn't the whole truth.
The whole truth is, Biblically we can also act how we want to feel. (This truth sometimes goes by the dirty word called obedience) .
This week - right now, even - I want you to meditate about how you really want to feel in your life. Think of God honoring feelings, fullness-of-joy, abundant living feelings...that is what I want you to list. Go on and list as many as you can.
Then, pick the top 3 ways you want to feel...the ways you wish with all your heart that you could feel, "if only"....
Insert one of those feelings to the right of the "=" sign, in your math equation.
Secondly, what meditation...what "true truth" about God or about yourself or about your husband or about your circumstances...would create that feeling? What would happen if you simply chose that thought, and decided to believe it and receive it by faith? Put that meditation in either blank, to the left of the "=" sign, in your math equation.
Lastly, what action would "seal" or validate or back up or act out that thought? It could be as simple as singing a song, or complimenting a loved one, or being a little more generous with your money than you are accustomed to being. If you really believed that righteous thought, what would you be doing? Boil it down to one word (maybe two) and insert into the last blank, to the left of your "=" sign, in your math equation.
Then do that action.
Keep doing that action. Keep meditating on that true truth.
It might look like this: God loves me + release all fear of scarcity = Feeling Safe and Sure
Or, your equation might look like this: "I want to feel peace about my prodigal sons." (That one may or may not be autobiographical.) I recommend that you choose a thought that lines up with the word of God - "God loves them more than I do"...or "He is married to the backslider". The act I you might choose to "seal" that meditation is to simply pray a very brief prayer, every single time fear tries to grip me you.
Therefore, my your equation could look like this:
The Lord is married to them + the prayer "How You love them!" = Peace Every time fear presents itself, return to your meditation, and then quickly pray.
I also recommend that you spend time with the peaceful thought. Linger. Absorb it. Inject it. Speak it to your soul.
Lather, rinse, repeat. It's kind of a plug and play game! Have fun with it...discover God and yourself with it. Discover how utterly unchangeable God is, and how completely confused you often are, and discover how empowering it is to take steps to choose a thought and act in a way that would give you a desired feeling.
This + This = This
As surely as day follows night, if you do your daily math assignment, your heart will begin to beat with a positive emotion. It will be full of a noble theme, and your tongue will become the pen of a ready writer (to quote the Psalmist).
"Then the children of Joseph spoke to Joshua, saying, “Why have you given us only one lot and one share to inherit, since we are a great people, inasmuch as the Lord has blessed us until now?”
So Joshua answered them, “If you are a great people, then go up to the forest country and clear a place for yourself there in the land of the Perizzites and the giants, since the mountains of Ephraim are too confined for you.”
But the children of Joseph said, “The mountain country is not enough for us; and all the Canaanites who dwell in the land of the valley have chariots of iron, both those who are of Beth Shean and its towns and those who are of the Valley of Jezreel.”
And Joshua spoke to the house of Joseph—to Ephraim and Manasseh—saying, “You are a great people and have great power; you shall not have only one lot, but the mountain country shall be yours. Although it is wooded, you shall cut it down, and its farthest extent shall be yours; for you shall drive out the Canaanites, though they have iron chariots and are strong.” (Joshua 17:14-18)
When I spoke this past February at a women's conference in North Carolina, this was one of the texts I used. In it, we find the story of a tribe whose time to GROW had come.
So they approached their leader Joshua (who is a type of Christ, in Scripture) and basically asked for more territory.
You have to remember...or you must realize...that God is the original "territorial Spirit". HE puts the solitary in families, HE ordained tribes and households and boundaries. Today, HE ordains families, local churches, and we are still called to both expand the territory we are given, and guard its boundaries.
Joshua's answer? Grow up.
Literally...grow upwards. "Go up to the forest country. Sure, there are boulders and trees and giants with serious weapons, but if you want to expand - get to work."
And so it is for you, beautiful one, if you will allow me a brief coaching moment with you. I need to ask you to ask yourself what it is you are afraid of. Identify your giants. Be as concise as you can. Let's start with three. What three things, in terms of your growing up, are you most afraid of?
There comes a point when you are increasing in your gift, that you will be called both to "GROW UP" and to "go up higher". You will have to engage your next enemy. New territory will not be gained as easily as before (when it was simply given) but you can do this thing.
Can I tell you? Jehovah is on your side...and at the same time, no other human being - no spouse, counselor, life coach or friend - can do it for you. No one else can expand and grow your marriage...or your business...or your family.
