Right then, when I am hit by that thought - and this is scientific fact, happening in the amygdala - as soon as the awareness of a thought is there, that thought needs to be evaluated as to whether or not it is true or beneficial. If that thought is negative or toxic in any way...
Let that poisonous thing go. If it doesn't line up with the character of Christ - any anxious, jealous, suspicious, greedy, self gratifying thought - have another thought.
If all your thinking has led you to a place you don't like...
...have. another. thought.
This is the academic version of "take out the emotional trash". If you haven't read the work of Dr. Caroline Leaf , run (don't walk) to your nearest Amazon dot com, and buy this book:
Who Switched Off My Brain
It is only the best book on soul-care in the whole history of ever. Not even kidding. And you don't have to sift through a bunch of New Age hocus pocus - Dr. Leaf's premise is solidly Judeo-Christian. Here's a quote:
"An illness is deemed "psychosomatic" (or a "syndrome" or even "inflammation") "when doctors can't find a physiological cause for it, sometimes dismissing it as "all in the mind." While their diagnosis is right, their reasoning is wrong. Thoughts do cause illness and should thus be studied and controlled. If they are powerful enough to make us sick, they are powerful enough o make us healthy as well." (emphasis and aside are mine)
If you feel you need intensive training, after you have read the book, I also highly recommend Dr. Leaf's 21 Day Brain Detox Program It is very spiritual, very comprehensive, and very inexpensive.
Feel free to send the difference of whatever you used to spend on counseling and therapy to Harvest Church. Seriously, make the check out to Harvest Church. I believe in these resources that much. I fully expect to save you money, if you have been seeing a therapist. So donate the difference. I won't see a penny of it, and neither will my Preacher. It will probably help further fund his upcoming trip to Haiti, in fact. You will be sowing into the Kingdom of God, plus you will get a tax deduction.
Some things are just a win/win.